In the viral TikTok trend

A new TikTok trend is making families everywhere stop and think about the dynamics of their home, sparking conversations about “living room families” and “bedroom kids.”

“Living room families” are those who gather in common spaces, where a lived-in, cluttered space becomes a warm symbol of closeness. For “bedroom kids,” retreating to their room is about privacy, security and comfort. This trend has resonated with families around the world and invites us to consider how shared and private spaces shape our emotional well-being and family bonds.

In a viral TikTok with nearly 25 million views, TikTok creator @alexxx1915 points out the beauty of a messy living room – he sees the clutter as an expression of connection and family togetherness. It's not about a picture-perfect home; It's about the life and love that happens in it.

Why this trend appeals to us

This viral conversation is like a window back into our own childhood. Did you grow up in a “living room family” where everyone crowded around the TV with snacks and laughter? Or were you a “bedroom child” who retreated to your room in search of peace and quiet?

The trend is causing many parents to look at their own cozy stuff with new eyes. Suddenly that stack of board games in the corner is no longer just stuff; it is a reminder of togetherness. And for those who were “bedroom kids,” there might even be a hint of nostalgia—and perhaps a bit of “what if?” in the desire for more time in shared family spaces. These little, unplanned moments are really the ones that stick.

Find the sweet spot between togetherness and time alone

Not every family fits perfectly into the “living room” or “bedroom” mold. Some families thrive in busy, shared spaces, while others find peace alone. Let’s be honest: Even the most dedicated “living room family” needs a little break from “family time” every now and then! It's more than okay to have both common spaces and private retreats.

Psychologists often talk about the importance of finding this balance. Dr. Carl Pickhardt, a psychologist who studies family dynamics, suggests that common spaces such as living rooms promote bonding and connection, while private spaces provide children with a “place of power” where they can express their independence. He points out that this balance of shared and alone time helps children build resilience, whether through social interactions or self-reflection. This approach allows families to create a home where everyone feels supported, whether they're relaxing together or enjoying some well-deserved personal time.

Rooms to Stick (and Room to Breathe)

• Create a cozy family corner. Try a designated area in the living room with blankets, board games, and a “movie night” box full of goodies. Small touches can make shared spaces appear inviting without forcing people to participate.
• Set “open house” times. Try to spend an hour or two of time with the family every evening, then have everyone retreat to their own rooms to create a natural rhythm between connection and privacy.
• Add some flexible space. If reading is a big part of your family, a small reading nook in the living room with comfortable chairs can make everyone feel present. For younger children, there is a cozy space nearby where they can play or read independently while still feeling part of the family.

The end result

The “living room families” versus “bedroom kids” trend reminds us that there is no one-size-fits-all solution to family dynamics. It's not about everyone crowding into one room or isolating themselves in separate corners. It's about creating a home where everyone feels seen, safe and connected – whether they're meeting for a movie night or curling up in the corner of a bedroom.

So were you a “living room child” or a “bedroom child”? Or maybe you were like me with your own “kitchen table club” (the best snacks in one place! 🙋🏻‍♀️). However you grew up, this trend gives us a new way to think about what it means to make a space feel like a home for everyone.